Problems

Life issues are like trying to stop an arsonist using an extinguisher. One day, it’ll run out. When it does, will you burn or turn your back to the flames and walk away? 

Naturally, humans are problem solvers. We cherish the relief of finding a solution when something bothers us. Truthfully, though, issues bring out the best and the worst in us all. We can become fixated and won’t feel fulfilled until it’s resolved.

Previously, this made sense. Our desire to improve our well-being through invention, wealth or whatever means necessary drove our determination to create solutions. But what do you do when your quality of life eclipses any issue worth worrying about? 

We create problems. I’m convinced keeping ourselves concerned is this era’s infatuation. While tranquillity sounds delightful, you’ll realise waking up every morning without anything to worry about is directionless and, over time, destructive. Ask yourself, what was the last thing you did that had no objective or outcome? Doom-scrolling doesn’t count.

Even if, like me, you enjoy an amble along the beach, it was probably with well-being in mind. We struggle to justify our actions unless they have a motive or meaning. 

I’ve lost count of how often I’ve asked myself, ‘Why am I doing this?’ before heading out for a walk. It’s as if my mind rejects the thought that we can put one foot in front of the other and be satisfied with simply finding out where I end up. My subconscious craves a destination to give the stroll some purpose. 

We’re hardwired to relish when relief replaces anxiety upon completing a task. Suspense is programmed into our understanding of existence as if life were a film plot; without jeopardy, we wonder why we should be interested. 

Collectively, we treat our issues like chores, something to be ticked off the list and then forgotten as we move on to the next one. It’s as if we only know one way to deal with our problems: solutions. 

Why else would you feel helpless when someone shares their cancer diagnosis? It’s not your fault, but we want to provide the solution even when we don’t have it. 

Some issues require acceptance. I can’t stop dementia reducing my grandad’s role from life’s main character to one of its extras, afraid to open his mouth for fear of forgetting the lines. Though, I can appreciate the moments we have left together, even as I’m filling in the blanks. 

Somedays, you must face the fire, but others remind you that we can’t extinguish everything. You might think the only way to move on is to fix problems, but acceptance provides peace in adversity.